Marriage

It is the one thing; bachelors desire to jump into with lot of curiosity, hope and excitement. It’s the same thing married men think on getting out of it with detest, disdain and despise .It’s a beautiful memory for some and a night mare for many.  Every anniversary reminds us on the joyful and painful decisions that were taken in the past. It is a dirty picture which we all want to watch it desperately only to end up in criticizing or debating on it.  It’s all about marriage. Albert Einstein said “Men marry women with the hope they will never change, Women marry men with the hope they will change”. Invariably they are both disappointed.

One thing always attracts me in a wedding is the end part, where you see girl tearful and boy joyful. This is a reflexive moment for all of us, as you don’t see bride tearful again or the bridegroom cheerful again.  Courtesy to marriage, life changes radically & drastically for both men and women.

As wise person told:

Life before a marriage is always Ups. You do a “Push Up” to impress her, then you “Top-up” your mobile to “call her up”. You “meet-up” talk over “7-up” to “cheer-up”. You “blow-up” balloons and “take-up” the relationship  further.

Life after marriage is full of downs. She will be angry  on you “boiling down”. You ask her to “Calm down”, “chill down”, “cool down”,  atleast“sit down” at least. She hits you, and then you request her to “Slow-down”. You “tumble down” and eventually resulting in a “breakdown”

It’s easy to identify a bachelor isn’t it? He is always energetic, ever smiling. You can see him with a mobile, a fast track watch, wet gel on his hair. He prefers pulsar, and has 360 degree focus on the surroundings. He always worry that the back seat on the bike is vacant.

On the contrast, a married man is also easy to identify. He is mostly lost, always serious.  You always see him with a Tupper ware lunch box and a titan watch. He is pregnant with fat and trust Nuzen’s hair oil for hair growth. He prefers splendor bike and has only 90 degree focus. He was a he-man, superman and spider man but now he is a Doberman without a smile and a tail.. He now worries that there is no seat left for him on the bike as kids take front seat and the wife takes back seat.

It’s interesting to observe how both people look out at the same thing but with different perspective:

A bachelor thinks the best way to build up a relation, is to talk, talk &talk while married men believe in silence.

A bachelor drinks for pleasure, while married men drink out of pressure.

One respects Abdul Kalam for his wisdom, while other admires him for maintaining his freedom by not marrying.

A railway station is a best place to witness their differences. You can find married men come with lots of luggage & planning. A bachelor comes rushing in the last minute with just a laptop bag & a RAC ticket. Married men read magazines such as “India today” and buy best seller books such as “How to stay calm & cool and not regretting on past decisions”. Bachelor reads magazines such as “women era & women world, women’s health” magazines and buys best seller book s “How to impress women”, “How to get women of dreams”.

It’s not that they disagree in everything; there is one thing they stand united. Both of them remember only Katrina and forget slice in a slice add and watch only Aishwarya in ignoring Lux in a soap add.

It’s that only bachelors have fun,married men also have it but they don’t reveal it.

 A Bachelor’s life is like a perfume, nice but shorter with time. Married life is like a wine, its gets better with time.

A marriage is same as walking on a fire before a temple to get virtue or eating a neem leaf for better health. We only talk about the heat and bitterness, but fail to discuss on their virtues and benefits. There is no gain without pain. In a sea journey, you need to weather the storm, withstand the tide, to land on a beautiful island. It helps exploring your potential, gaining maturity and revealing your purpose and responsibility in life. Don’t fear looking at the honeybees, there is a sweet honey behind it, don’t worry of the thorns of the rose plant, there is a beautiful flower above it. Explore experience and enjoy beauty of marriage all by yourself!!! Like me